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Families as a Building Block of Vocations

Catholics are now mainstream.  The "Catholic Ghettos" such as Price Hill and Mercer County which were supported by classics such as "The Bells of St. Mary's" or Archbishop Fulton Sheen's "Sunday Night Catechism" no longer exist, and have a certain mystery to people of my generation.  One aspect of that "Ghetto" culture that we no longer have is full seminaries and convents, as the culture itself supported the idea of religious vocations.  It does not take a rocket scientist to recognize that this support is now missing!

So, what is our reaction?  Certainly, we cannot turn back the clock.  Therefore, how can we as Catholics promote vocations to the priesthood and/or religious life in a culture that no longer overtly supports the idea?  I see a few steps that we can take to help reverse this trend and encourage our young people to realize that they are called to follow Christ throughout their lives — regardless of their specific vocations.

First, families must recognize that they are the basic building block of the Church.  The Domestic Church is where your children learn to pray, to give thanks to God for the many gifts He gives, and to share their talents for the building up of the Kingdom of God.  Aspects of this Domestic Church can be simple to build, too.  Do you have Crucifixes in your homes?  Do you pray before meals?  My family had a tradition of praying the rosary together every Monday evening.  It helped bring the faith alive to me.  Some families celebrate the patron saint of each child, in addition to birthdays.  As children become teens, help them to engage their faith.  We had to give reports on the homily each week: What were the readings about? How did Father apply that in his homily?  What would I have said differently?  In order to answer these questions, I had to pay attention, to listen to the readings and see how they impacted my own faith.  (This certainly helped in my transition to the seminary as well!)

 The second aspect of rebuilding a Catholic culture is being willing to overtly share your faith with others, especially your own family!  This is something that our Fundamentalist brothers and sisters are much more willing to do than we Catholics, but we can model our faith in very simple ways, such as reminding your boss that you have to leave early from work today because it is a Holy Day of Obligation.  I have many friends that willingly wear a crucifix, and are not afraid to talk about Christ Crucified, or where they attended Mass during their vacation, to simply inviting co-workers to come to the parish festival, mission or retreat.  Many people are waiting to be invited.  Be that person who extends the invitation.

Third, show your support of vocations by giving a public display of support and encouragement to your pastor and any religious that might be serving in your parish.  The greatest testament and witness for vocations to the priesthood are happy priests!  We often hear only the worst news: Father, pray for my wife who is going into surgery, my father who has cancer, my cousin who is having a difficult pregnancy.  These are all things we gladly accept and offer our prayers for, but do not forget to share the good news with him as well.

Finally, I challenge families especially to pray not just for the generic"‘increase in vocations," but also to add "that my son or daughter may be open to following Christ as a priest or religious."  Priests do not fall out of the sky; they are raised in families just like your own.  When I see the poster of the 33 men studying for the priesthood here in the Archdiocese, I also see the families that helped prepare them to respond to this call, and what a wonderful and joyous call it is.  Do not be afraid to support your sons and daughters to follow where God may be leading them.  I am convinced that this is the secret to happiness.

To find out more about how families and parishes can support vocations to the priesthood, visit www.cincinnativocations.org/parents_seedbed.shtml.

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    I really like these ideas of incorporating faith into family life, and I will definitely use them if I am blessed with children.

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    My son is a college student who has considered the priesthood for a few years.  He has a girlfriend too, but hasn't come to a decision, and probably won't be able to, until he finishes college.  He is worried about handling a busy parish, especially with the shortage of priests.  The responsibilies of a large, busy parish is intimidating.  My son loves God very much, and is outgoing, and genuinely loves people.  From the outside looking in, I understand his concerns, because he is so young.  I wish I knew how to talk to him better, about his concerns.  I am the only person he opens up to, and he isn't ready to talk to a vocations director. 

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    I know it is always easy to say that "with God all things are possible", but much harder to put that faith into full time practice.  However, if we are faithful and allow God to "stretch us" by fulling putting our faith, not in our own abilities, but God's ability to use our littleness to show how great He is, then we will never be disappointed. 

    Obviously, it is important that you support your son no matter what he decides, and it is good that he is sharing his concerns with you.  However, I think he is allowing himself to be overwhelmed and create a false reality that may never come to be.  When a person gets married, they don't usually think so far into the future that they wonder about "What if I have twelve kids?  Will I be able to support my family?" They just love the person they want to marry and decide to serve them the rest of their life to the best of their ability. 

    And so it goes with God – if we are faithful to Him, He is faithful to us, and will provide us with the means and ability to do what He asks of us, no matter how big or small it may seem.  God knows your son intimately, and would never give him more than he is capable of enduring, (though frequently we DO think He has taken us WAY too far). And it may even happen that after your son began his studies for the priesthood he may discover he isn't being called to the priesthood after all; but if he is, he will come to realize for himself that no matter what life may require of him, "With God all things are possible."  God bless you and your son for discerning the priesthood and not ignoring the possibility that God may be calling him to serve His people! 

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    Good Catholic priests come from good Catholic families supported by a Catholic culture. It's really that simple. It doesn't look promising for us in the area of vocations. We live a life full of noise, clamor, distraction and self-indulgence. This structure is hostile to the call and response to vocations. God always calls in a whisper like He did to Samuel. Musicians do not come out of a home without music and writers are sparse where there are no books or literature. Is there a shortage of geeks, investment or fashion consultants? Hardly.

    We have a structural and systemic problem. An affluent culture puts God in his place. He's lucky to get Saturday evening because Sunday is not His anymore.God called Israel's prophets from the southern, impoverished land of Judah. The wealthier northern tribes produced little in the way of God’s call and expectations.

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    There is a boogey-man in the bedroom of most church going Catholics today.  His name is Contraception and Sterilization.

    Until the hierarchy deals honestly with the catastrophic evil of sterile marriages, vocations won't occur despite the formal prayer cards for vocations.  My husband and I are NFP teachers with NO students.  Why?  Couples aren't required to take it in order to be married in the church.  Why?  Our local Marriage Encounter couple doesn't even mention NFP as integral to communication and marital satisfaction.  Why? No priest has mentioned family planning in a homily in years and NFP week….NFP week?  Why? Contracepting and sterilized folks parade up for communion along with those in a State of Grace.  Why?  Cohabitating and/or contracepting couples say, "I do" with nary a question out of a priest or deacon.  The Father of Lies doesn't want anybody to ask the "Whys" for fear the Holy Spirit might compel an honest answer and people's behavior would need to change.  It's far better to keep folks ignorant and happy…. Don't ask why, just pray the stock prayer.

    As Father Zosima says in The Brothers Karamazov, the worst person to lie to is yourself.  

    When Theology of the Body becomes commonplace in homilies and Faith Formation programs, I'll know the bishops mean business. Then the hearts of spouses will be softened toward each other and their offspring.  We will see a flowering of vocations. 

    Until Catholics start having more children, there won't be fruit for vocations.  There won't even be fruit to wither on the vine.

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    There is a boogey-man in the bedroom of most church going Catholics today. His name is Contraception and Sterilization.

    Certainly the laity must publicly support and recognize the priests and religious who have thrown down their lives in gift to God. I would add, however, that such recognition and support is a two-way street. I'll return the petition to all priests and religious who might be reading through these comments: do you publicly support those faithful laity who willingly and often with much difficulty carry the cross of the full teaching of the Church? As a priest do you preach the Theology of the Body and the Theology of the Person and the Natural Law, including an explanation of how these theologies in particular bear consequences against the contraceptive culture and in favor of large families especially? As a religious, have you learned the physiology of NFP? Would you be able to teach NFP to a member of your third-order laity? Would you be able to teach NFP to someone in your novitiate who discerns a real calling to marriage during their novitiate and is therefore preparing to leave? We must recall that the greatest NFP supporter who ever lived was (and is) Pope John Paul II and the most prolific NFP teacher who ever lived was (and is) Blessed Theresa of Calcutta.

    To Father Schnippel in particular I offer the following question, since you are located in Cincinnati (which is also home to the Couple-to-Couple League): Do all of your seminarians attend at least one CCL seminar during their formation? Do your seminarians work closely with CCL in its effort to foster the culture of life which is the foundation of the family which, in turn, is the foundation of priestly and religious vocations, especially when that culture of life leads to large families?

    And I mean this in exactly the same positive light as expressed in Father Schnippel's article: we must support the family. We must do so publicly. And we must recognize especially those families who are open to the full teaching of the Church, for they are the echo chambers of God's call, allowing it to resonate in such a way that it is heard and supporting it in such a way that an affirmative response can be offered.

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    Elkabrikir, you nailed that one. I'll bet you have a good part of The Brothers Karamazov memorized. Certainly the statement "the worst person to lie to is yourself." is a must to commit to memory. It's like fool me twice shame on me but in the same instant with double the consequences. I'm all for No Fooling People.

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    Elkabrikir,

    Your comment and the last paragraph of Father Schnippel's article are right on target.

    Among Catholic families who are very active in parish life, I have found people have made zero room in their plans for a child to have a vocation to religious life. They have their boy and their girl and their plan to have their 4.5 grandchildren.  And God is not going to take any of that away from them. And, why yes, they do contracept, but Father So-and-so told them it was alright.

    In inactive and non-Catholic families it must be even worse, just not quite as sad.

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    NFP Dad,

    I love the poetry of this phrase:   ""the echo chambers of God's call".

     

    Thanks!

    Rejoicing in Hope! 

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    First off, a thanks to Catholic Exchange for running the article.  It originally appeared in the Catholic Telegraph, paper for the Archdiocese of Cincinnati, but it has generated far more conversation here.

     

    To Laurak:

    Pray for your son, that he is open and has the courage to respond where God is leading him.  When he is ready, have him visit with a priest he trusts (hopefully there is one at the campus he attends), or with the vocation director.  We tend to be a very hopefilled bunch of priests, and we can help a young man get ready to respond, where ever God might be calling him.  I also echo Behr68's comments, he will get the training in the seminary to be able to do what he needs to do, and 'with God, all things are possible.'  One thing also, we do not do this alone.  Yes, the burden of responsibility falls on the pastor's shoulders, and he is the one the (arch)bishop will call, but he certainly should consult with qualified lay people in the parish who can give him the direction that he needs, when the time comes.

     

    With the family and NFP debate, that was an unexpected twist of a conversation, but one that very accurately hits the nail on the head.  I am a product of a six child family, and when I inquired about seminary, mom and dad were keen on supporting, without pushing me too hard in that direction.

    However, as I talk to families with just two or three, I do not see or feel that openness, and it all goes back to a contraceptive culture that breeds a sense of entitlement vs the obligations of responsibility.  As such, I usually always try to encourage parents of larger families when I encounter them either at a parish or in the confessional.  They get so much flack elsewhere, they need to be encouraged there, at the least.  A fellow priest in the diocese who also helps with the 'Helpers of God's Precious Infants' Mass nearby the Planned (un)Parenthood abortion mill is convinced that it all goes back to this arena.

     And, as was mentioned, the Couple to Couple League is here in Cinci.  Unfortunately, our guys are not required to attend a session, but are certainly open and encouraged to do so.  (They sponsor priests and seminiarians to take the course for free, mention it to your pastor!)  The seminary has offered in the past and hopefully will do so again in the near future a class on the Theology of the Body for the guys to take.

    Finally, I tell many folks to be patient, they are coming.  The men that are currently in formation are holy men, passionate about the faith and passionate about passing it on in its entirety, including preaching NFP and LIFE.  They often put me to shame, and drive me to strive even more so for holiness.  I sense a great tide approaching, but it will take your support and prayers when these young guys get into parishes and try to preach the truth and will get persecuted for it.  Suppport them and they will support you!

    For other ideas, visit http://fatherschnippel.blogspot.com or http://cincinnativocations.org/wordpress/

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    God bless you Father. I have not yet completed even four years as a Catholic, and in the short time I have already gone from joy to bitterness back to a bit-by-little-bit, day-by-day survival, whether inside the parish or out. It's not easy. I can only imagine the travails that more seasoned Catholics have endured. The highs must certainly have been quite high, and the lows abysmal.

    I can only add that I had bought into the contraceptive culture but was deeply attracted by the beauty of the Church's teaching. I have seen others respond to that beauty when it is presented in its fullness (and have given chastity talks both to married couples and young people). It is frustrating to see so many back down from that beauty before they even have the chance to experience it, or else to relate it in an incomplete fashion, as if such immense beauty were only for the few or the initiated. Please accept the meager fare that I have offered here for what it is worth, and forgive the haste implied in my words.

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    After viewing the movie Bella last night with a couple of ladies, one asked me, "I know this is personal, but have you and your husband always been so faithful to the church and to each other?"….I did not hesitate in my response which was something like this–"No, but we met some really faith-filled couples when we lived in S. Carolina many years ago.  We saw the love they had for each other and the church and it was so beautiful we said, Hey, we want that too!"  then we began to learn their "secret"–obedience to God through the teachings of the church in ALL matters–sacramental life, conception, raising children in the faith, tithing, etc.  Several of those couples we met have children discerning vocations.

     To all those commenting above—you TOO are most likely influencing young couples to want to live their lives with God and for God!

     Praying daily for vocations within and without our family….

     

    Jesus, I trust in You!

     

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    Thank you Fr. Schnippel!

    The article is beautiful.  Your vocation is beautiful.  Your hope is beautiful.  I have 6 kids, teach NFP and dig the faith.  Jesus does call us up higher to love more.  I find his yoke easy.  And yet more than I can handle at times.

    But, all in all I find it is the people that he places before me that make life beautiful.  People, who follow the church or not, are so beautiful.  Smile May more and more come to follow the church and by that may we all move closer to Christ.

    Thank you again Father!

    GK – God is good!

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