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Disappointment with Christians

More than once since becoming Catholic, I have had conversations with people who have been burned by fellow Christians and declared in their anger, “I was a fool to believe in these people. I am determined not to get fooled again.”

Not a few people, acting on this resolve, have left the Church. It’s a great loss all round and my heart has been saddened to see it.

At the same time, I have to add that alarm bells always go off when people speak of “believing in” the Church’s members, as though Christians were going to be something other than people, or the holiness of Holy Church was somehow due to us and not to her Head.

Here’s the deal: God, and God alone, is why the Church is holy. It is not holy because of us. Because Christ is the Head of the Church and the Holy Spirit is Her soul, you can trust Holy Church completely.

But (and mark this well) only a fool would trust the Church’s members merely because they are her members. To be sure, we extend each other the normal charity we should extend strangers. We don’t presume the worst or live in constant paranoia. But we can’t uncritically assume that Sr. Thingummy, Fr. Whosit, Bishop Whatsit, Pope Whoever or our Christian parents, spouse, friends, boss, or employee could not possibly sin or be incompetents or radically betray us. Radical sin is possible for each and every one of us till we assume room temperature. To refuse to acknowledge that is to treat people like gods. That’s idolatry.

At the end of the day, Christians are merely people. So, for instance, the priest abuse scandal ought to appall us, but not shock us. If we place some ultimate trust in mere mortals — including ordained mortals — we can be certain of disappointment. But that will not be God letting us down: it will be our own idolatry doing the job. We ought never to have "believed in" the various culprits by placing some ultimate trust in them. That is reserved for God alone. None of that is to say criminals should not get exactly what they deserve. Nor is it to say Christians are not expected to be holy and good and loving. It is to say that the existence of Christian criminals — even ordained ones — tells us nothing whatever about the falsity of the gospel. It merely bears out the fact that sin is indeed a dreadful thing requiring the dreadful remedy of the Cross.

To be sure, there are people I trust with ordinary human trust. But that’s because I believe the command to be wise as a serpent and innocent as a dove and to "test everything" and hold fast to what is good. There are Christians (and others) to whom I would entrust my kids, my car, and my wallet. There are also Christians (and others) to whom I would never entrust any such thing. That’s because I know grace is grace, not magic.

American culture — immersed as it is in Protestantism and a post-Protestant world view — tends to have a model of conversion that is Pauline: “I was a sinner, sinking down to the depths of degradation. Then Jesus knocked me off my horse, saved me, and my life was radically transformed! Now I am walking in victory over sin and I go from glory to glory! Hallelujah!”

It’s a real model of conversion and the good thing about it is that it demands a lot of us and produces a lot of heroes (like Paul). The bad thing is that it can create people impatient with failure — and failure is our middle name. That’s why there is also the Petrine model of the Long Slow Schlep Toward Holiness Over Time. And indeed, for most of us, this is how it goes. The average Christian is average : part of the big family of cowards, shufflers, snobs, hypocrites, and general all-around mediocrities. That’s us, homo sapiens , the species Christ came to save.

That’s why resolutions to "not get fooled again" seem to me like climbing up and falling off the horse on the other side. Both credulity and skepticism are blunders of the intellect. They blind us, in opposite ways, to the nourishing truth of the Faith. Skepticism is the foolish insistence on not believing what is so if it conflicts with our philosophy, just as credulity is the foolish desire to believe what is not so if it confirms our false hopes. Instead of ordering our intellects toward avoiding human philosophies or false hopes, the more excellent way is to order our minds toward the light of Christ’s revelation. That revelation tells us that Holy Church can be trusted completely, but not its weak and very human members.

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12 responses to “Disappointment with Christians”

  1. PrairieHawk Avatar

    Shouldn’t Christians–particularly Catholics–be held to a higher standard? “Much will be required of the person entrusted with much, and still more will be demanded of the person entrusted with more” (Luke 12:48). I have heard it said that Catholics have the hardest time escaping Purgatory because of all the graces that have been entrusted to us. There is no excuse for something like the priest scandal; it is just as shocking as it is appalling.

  2. DonHudzinski Avatar

    This trap is not just about Holiness, but love, for we have this awl full habit of saying, “I love you”. When a son asks his father, “Do you love, mom?”. The father should answer, “Mother loves Christ and I love Christ, and we love Christ, for He is the Vine and we are the branches.”. When a daughter asks her mother, “Do you love, dad”. The mother should answer, “Father loves Christ and I love Christ, and we love Christ, for He is the Vine and we are the branches.

    Christ’s love is unconditional, not human love, without the love of Christ, love in a human marriage dies. The statement, I love you, is to make the source of love something other than Christ.

    This trap we have set upon ourselves, for without the love of Christ, we are incapable of loving anyone, to say we love someone is to state we are God.

  3. jvista Avatar
    jvista

    PrairieHawk–

    You can’t answer your question with a simple Yes or No. Here’s an analogy:

    I am in the military. For several reasons, many people hold military members to a higher standard. However, during my 18 years of service, I have seen the quality of recruits gradually decline.

    Bottom line: Whether clergy or military, we are products of our society, whether we like to admit it or not.

  4. Heidi Saxton Avatar

    Don: Are you trying to be ironic? If my child asks if I love their father, I simply tell them, “Yes.” If I start talking about vines and branches, my seven-year-old would think I’d flipped my gourd . . . or simply wasn’t listening. If I want to go a little deeper, I might say, “Yes, I love your dad . . . And I try to show him how much every day, in every way I possibly can.”

    I’d also add a caveat to Mark’s statement “…we can’t uncritically assume that Sr. Thingummy, Fr. Whosit, Bishop Whatsit, Pope Whoever or our Christian parents, spouse, friends, boss, or employee could not possibly sin or be incompetents or radically betray us.” There is difference between naivite and legitimate trust of spiritual authority — and between prudence and spiritual pride that refuses to submit to that legitimate authority (which is often the underlying cause of the defections).

    I agree it’s always a mistake to make one’s faith contingent on the behavior on people rather than Christ. And yet, Christ passed his authority on to (often fallible) men, and through ordination gifted them with graces that the rest of us do not have. It is a Protestant mentality to set oneself up as the ultimate authority and judge of right and wrong (always based on my own interpretation of Scripture, of course). If we always start from a position of suspicion, and refuse to trust the Holy Spirit to empower “Pope/Bishop/Fr Whoever” to handle the truth and pass it on to us, than we are truly no better off than our separated brothers and sisters. A shepherd’s job is to protect the flock . . . not ingratiate himself with the sheep.

    Yes, study to show yourselves approved. Yes, educate yourself to know the faith. On the other hand, God gave us spiritual authornity for a reason. The default should be trust, not suspicion.

  5. jh Avatar
    jh

    Jesus told us to love one another as we love God, so yes, we are capable of loving one another. But we are also to practice the gifts of the Holy Spirit (and try to stay tuned to this) of wisdom, understanding, counsel, fortitude, knowledge, piety and fear of the Lord. We have a resposibility to grow in the wisdom and knowledge of our faith, to seek understanding of the truth and practice the spiritual and corporeal works of mercy. It’s a tall order for a bunch of sinners! But Christ gave the authority to Peter and if it wasn’t true not a one of us would be here today.

  6. Mary Kochan Avatar
    Mary Kochan

    Trust is not a blanket quality. You can trust people in this or that or with this or that. I might trust advice from someone about one subject, but not about another. I might trust a person with money, but not with giving my child instruction in the faith.

    But I think that trust is not exactly the same as “believing in” a person, in that way that Mark was using it. We do have to “believe in” the Church — that is part of our creed, in fact. But that isn’t referring to any individual.

    A shepherd’s job IS to protect the flock, like Heidi said. But when you observe that the shepherd is more concerned with some other agenda, for the sake of which he will allow predators to carry off sheep, I think it is impossible to keep the same level of trust. But you can still keep believing in the Church.

  7. AllisonC Avatar
    AllisonC

    We can trust, but we must also be observant, and watch those whom we trust. As many of us were taken by surprise by the sex scandals that broke over the Church, now we are more aware, but not, as many are, ready to paint all with blanket condemnation. But watchful, steady, giving our trust, and lamenting that a few made it necessary to lose our innocence. But never losing our belief in what is right and good in the Church, our faith and our love. Don’t become cynical and judgemental, remember to love one another as Christ loved us.

  8. DonHudzinski Avatar

    Hiedi, I am dead serious.

  9. rakeys Avatar
    rakeys

    Don
    Jesus said to “Love your neighbor”. if you only love God, you will be disobeying Jesus. Love is an action word, not a feeling.
    St. Francis, when he confronted a sinful priest who had commited adultery and was living in sin, did not leave the church, because he was appalled by the priest’s actions, but knelt down and kissed his hands which bring us Jesus in the Holy Eucharist. The priest later repented.
    We are a sinful people. But just because we should not be the first to throw stones, we must call each other to follow and live the teachings of Jesus Christ.
    And that means to trust that He will always guide the Church, and call its members to repentance.

  10. DonHudzinski Avatar

    rakeys
    Jesus also said, “We are to be the likeness and image of God”, but our children tell us that they are the likeness and images of their father or mother.

    How do you acount for that?

  11. Mary Kochan Avatar
    Mary Kochan

    We account for it through procreation — and genetics.

  12. DonHudzinski Avatar

    Second is like the first, but is not the first. We do not spite God, as if our love is better than His, or that we can do a better job of loving than He. He sets the example for all. Sin make our love imperfect, His love is perfect for He did not sin.

    Mary
    we are not talking about appearances here, but love.

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