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Changing the World One Child at a Time

In 1995, Christopher and Barbara (Mikulski) Hoar wanted to adopt a child. Because they were over 40, they were encouraged to pursue an international adoption. Barbara was fluent in the Polish language and had relatives in Poland so they became determined to adopt a Polish child. The road was anything but easy.

They visited Poland in 1997 and were approved for international adoption, but this was only the beginning. When they returned to America, the Hoars attempted to make contact with anyone knowledgeable in Polish adoption, including several orders of women religious. The Little Servant Sisters of the Blessed Virgin Mary, Immaculate Conception, came through with a brother and sister who were waiting to be adopted. On Mother's Day 1998, the Hoars finally got to meet their children. They spent two weeks in Poland, getting to know the children as well as many other children who were also waiting to be adopted. While their own adoption was finalized in August 1998, they felt called to do something to help these other children left behind.

Early in their own adoption process, the Hoars had met with Rev. Michael Boland, administrator of Catholic Charities of the Archdiocese of Chicago. The organization had just committed to the creation of an International Adoption Program. When the Hoars approached Fr. Boland with their desire to help these Polish children, he invited them to work with Catholic Charities of Chicago.

Mrs. El?bieta Podczazka, Director of the Public Office of Adoption and Care in Poland, came to meet with Fr. Boland. She emphasized that her office tried to place children in Poland. Only when that option was exhausted would her office look to international adoption. Even then, the first choice would be Christian families of Polish descent who would be able to help the children maintain their Polish heritage. The Hoars and Catholic Charities continued to work together to develop a Polish adoption program.

 Out of this experience, Christopher and Barbara began Caritas for Children, Inc . Headquartered in Milwaukee, Wisconsin, Caritas promotes, encourages, and provides support and financial assistance for the health, education, and general welfare of orphaned and disadvantaged children through the services of Catholic religious communities. Sadly, there are millions of orphaned, abandoned, and impoverished children in the world, most of whom will never be adopted. Caritas began a sponsorship program to help these children have their basic needs met and obtain an education. Caritas works with religious missionaries throughout the world to provide these services. These missionaries provide a unique service and perspective. They speak the language and are already well respected in the communities they serve. Many have first-hand experience of growing up in the same poor conditions.

The sponsorship program does not seek to provide purely monetary support. While that is obviously incredibly important, Caritas also seeks to provide a human connection between donor and recipient. The very name Caritas means love. Chris states, "In the relationships created by a Caritas sponsorship, families will come to know their child or children. We encourage the connection of the heart and know that financial support will follow. When a child knows that someone cares about them to help with education, food, and water . . . delivered in a program that is created to build their community and share the Gospel . . . they have hope for this life and eternity."

To find out more about Caritas and how you can help, visit http://www.caritas.us/ .

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    Dziekuje barzo! This is an excellent opportunity for those who want to do something to help the children of the world, but aren't sure about adoption (or for couples where one partner is more interested than the other…). For those who want to help, golden opportunities like this abound…

    Blessings!

    Heidi Hess Saxton Editor, "Canticle" Magazine Blogroll

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    Adoption is what my wife and I call a "hidden" blessing.  Our oldest son is adopted.  And when we say "hidden" blessing, we mean that the blessings of adopting a child are only fully realized when you hold that child in yours arms.  Our son, Josh, is 20 years old now.  And each time I hug my son or spend some time with him that blessing is renewed.

    And yes our son is the product of an international adoption.  Of course it was a little easier for us as we lived in the Philippines at the time and my wife is from the Philippines.

    To anyone who reads this and is thinking about adopting.  Do it!  You will not regret it.  There is a child out there somewhere that needs a loving home just as much as you need a child.

    This is a wonderful article and organizations like this are a great help for prospective parents.  And for the men out there that may be reluctant about adopting (I was at first. I wanted a girl wife wanted son.) don't be afraid of adopting a little boy.  My son and I very close and I couldn't be more proud he will "carrying on the family name".  Our relationship is so wonderful that we like to 'shock' people when ask if he is adopted.  Normally they get one of these responses.

    1.  From me "No he's not, I am"

    2.  No of course not.  Don't you think we look like each other?  Keep in mind I'm a little over 6 foot tall with blond hair (ok it used to be) and Josh is 5 foot 3 inch with black hair and has a brown complexion.

    We both get a laugh over some of the silly looks we get.

    Tarheel (Dave)

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    To Christopher and Barbara: May god bless your ministry with a world of support!

    I also must second the comments from Tarheel.  My 10 year old adopted son looks like he could be my own and is a fos-adopt child. However, my advise to anyone thinking about adoption is the same as his.  The road to adoption is never easy, but the rewards are without measure.

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