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Three Steps to Keeping Your Kids Catholic

Do you know the early warning signs of a young Catholic losing his faith? I do. I’ve seen them countless times in many young people over my nearly thirty-year career in Catholic apologetics and evangelization.

They include:

  • Apathy
  • Uncertainty and doubt
  • Giving in to difficult moral challenges and temptations
  • Feeling unloved or unaccepted by fellow Catholics

No doubt you’ve seen these warning signs in people you know. And maybe you’ve noticed these red flags with your own children. If so, don’t worry; I’m not here to judge you! In fact, I can help.

Here are three steps you can take to help your children:

Family prayer

I strongly encourage praying the family rosary. It may be a challenge at times to gather the whole family together, but the spiritual benefits of praying the rosary as a family are enormous, especially if each child is allowed to take part in reciting this beautiful prayer.

Other acts of piety such as prayer before and after meals (every meal), night prayers with devotions like the act of contrition, the prayer to Saint Michael the Archangel, etc., can strengthen young people in their faith.

Lead by example

Faith must inform the daily routine and decisions in your home. Children must see their parents as truly prayerful. Not in a showy way, but in a way they can see. Look to almighty God trustingly throughout the day and don’t be too proud to ask for help from above.

Beyond the externals of prayer and piety in the home, children need to see that Mom and Dad are imbued with the results. They need to see you live out the gifts of faith, mercy, and forgiveness.

Prepare them to face challenges

I believe very much in the practice of “inoculation.” Prepare your kids now for what they will face later. I explain to my kids what atheists believe, what skepticism and relativism are, and I seek to give them the answers to these and similar challenges. I also tell them about the errors of Protestants and how to answer their challenges right from the Bible.

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Your kids may not understand the importance of everything you tell them at the time, but when they do encounter these challenges (and they will), your efforts to prepare them ahead of time will have a good effect. They will feel confident in coming to you about other important matters, because they see you as credible and reliable, someone with knowledge and wisdom.

So, become familiar with solid Catholic resources like Immaculate Heart Radio, Catholic Answers, EWTN, Catholics Come Home, and New Advent. There’s also the Catechism of the Catholic Church and the shortened Compendium, which, in addition to your Bible, should be standard “tools of the trade” to lead your children toward heaven. Share this information with your kids.

You may also consider sending them to the Envoy Institute Apologetics Summer Camp where we teach young Catholics how to explain their Faith more intelligently, defend it more charitably, and share it more effectively. Our proven methodology is not just successful but wildly popular with Catholic parents, teens, and young adults.
The bottom line is this: Parenthood is a great and awesome responsibility given to us by God the Father. What greater joy could you have than to pass on the riches of the Catholic Faith as a permanent, priceless inheritance to your children? If they have their Catholic Faith and a true love for God, then they have everything.

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2 responses to “Three Steps to Keeping Your Kids Catholic”

  1. Living a Catholic Fairy Tale Avatar

    I’d sum up this article like this: Be authentic as a parent and as a Catholic to your child and be open to discuss every possible aspect of life and faith.
    Beautiful, thank you!

  2. Bethany Avatar
    Bethany

    You are so right! But also tell your children you love them constantly, admit when you are wrong and ask forgiveness, forgive them and establish trust at an early age– they have a vision of God from your example as a parent! I also pray for God to open doors and make it obvious to us what his will is for them. My daughter went off to college and we made sure she knew where the Newman Center was and she told us she hoped to be a good influence in someone else’s life to bring them to the Faith! And she has! Her roommate and two other friends who weren’t going to Mass now go every week with her! She is a Eucharistic Minister now and was just asked to lead the Catholics for Life Team, and she works the Newman Center table at school events so other kids will know how to find them! Now my son is leaving this coming fall too and I’m praying that God give him Catholic friends also! I made it clear too that it is much easier to date (though we prefer court at a later age) a Catholic because he or she will be on the same page with what they value. They have listened so far!?

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