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The “Grumpies” in Lent

I think I detect a few cases of the "grumpies" around here. It must be Lent. People must be craving the candy and desserts they have given up. Maybe they are even in withdrawal. As I was out doing errands on a Friday in Lent recently, a driver motioned his hand at me and I'm not talking about a friendly "Hello!" I guess I didn't leave the drive up window of the bank quickly enough for him. Well, that hand motion and his mouth flapping got him a prayer from me, by the grace of God. That day was a very good penitential day in so many ways as there were challenges to deal with at home and out in the community and the migraine headache didn't help.

The extensive wait in a very long line at the Post Office gave an opportunity to pray another decade of the Rosary for the impatient people around me who may have been experiencing the "grumpies." Yet another opportunity for prayer was when a woman sped toward me, almost hitting me. I guess she felt she had to be somewhere awfully fast! Later on, a rude person on the other end of the phone helped to further set the tone for the day. A person could get grumpy dealing with all of this!

Are you experiencing the "grumpies" or live with someone who is? Are the kids bickering more than usual? Is your spouse having trouble understanding you? Are you losing your patience over insignificant trivial things? Are your buttons being pushed? Is everyone driving you crazy? Does it feel like everything you are doing or attempting to do is going wrong? Don't worry, it's just Lent. All of the above is good material for penance, I think. Our dear Lord is very aware of what we are experiencing.

 We Can Counteract the "Grumpies"

Lent is a wonderful opportunity to reflect on our lives; to examine what we are doing and what we should be doing. We have these forty days to deeply reflect and pray. Each day comes to us with new grace to help us on our journey. Each day comes with its own challenges and joy of heart when we offer it all to God. Hopefully we will be able to look upon the little inconveniences and annoyances as a gift to help strengthen our resolves to be the Christian our Lord calls us to be. Our actions are much more articulate than our words can ever be. Let's pause before reacting to the challenging situations that fill our daily lives so that we won't regret our actions and responses. Keeping a prayerful attitude will aid us immensely. Making use of the Sacraments frequently will fuel our souls and the love in our hearts. Visits to the Blessed Sacrament will give us peace.

We can counteract the "grumpies" with our responses of joy and our decision to turn to prayer when encountering discord and distress rather than reacting in a negative way. I have found that turning to the Blessed Mother immediately when experiencing a troubling situation will merit immediate grace and help. A quick aspiration to her asking for help or praying the Hail Mary will work wonders. I have been known to even suddenly start praying the "Hail Mary" out loud in my household, very loudly when I detect tension or when there is any bickering. It may seem comical at times, but it definitely "breaks the ice" and gets the point across. St. John Vianney (Cure d'Ars, 1786-1859) said, "If you invoke the Blessed Virgin when you are tempted, she will come at once to your help, and Satan will leave you."

Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.  Blessed art thou amongst women and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus.  Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us, now and at the hour of our death. Amen. 

Let's not forget about prayer and penance after Lent is finished and after we have celebrated the joy of the Risen Christ on Easter Sunday. We should continue to reflect and to pray and offer sacrifices to God each day as if we were still in the Lenten season. In this way, we will please our Lord and, together with our fellow pilgrims, help to light the way to Heaven for others.

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    Great article!  I really have to be on guard toward my instinct to respond negatively when someone is rude to me.  But when I give in to that, it only makes my day worse.

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    God loves you .

    I smile in any circumstance – twice – once for each cheek.

    Then, my repsonse is the equivalent of verbally boiling the other in oil.

    Lent or otherwise, I do believe that any boorish other should be told eventually where to get off. Christ may have done so with a charitable flair I ‘lack, but He still did not suffer childish effrontery for long.

    Most grumps are effective bullies, anyway – just as the Pharisees worked at that. Such persons deserve a good ‘response’. The few who are clearly under some painful influence – there’s this look about their eyes – which I perceive enough to stay gentle – but, I still may say something that defends myself against their bothersome way. And, other times, it is clear the other is venting and making no personal issue – that I can just sit and hear out.

    Now, Donna-Marie Cooper O’Boyle’s way may be better for her as she ‘umbrellas’ under prayer. But, I can still pray and become a storm against others’ raining on my day simply because I look stormy when I defend my choice not to be rained on. Most are going to go on spreading their un-cheer as they go; someone ought to tell them their high-horse isn’t appreciated.

    No – I have never ‘flicked the bird’ at anyone. Talk about a sophomoric if common gesture . . .

    Remember, I love you, too

    Through Christ, with Christ, in Christ,

    Pristinus Sapienter

    (wljewell @catholicexchange.com or … yahoo.com)

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    I am reminded of Christ's reaction to His torturers. He did not fire back to defend Himself, He did not tell them eventually where to get off. Instead He prayed "Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do."

    Peace,

    David

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    Jesus said, "To him who strikes you on the cheek, offer the other also.” But when the officer in the court of Caiaphas struck Him, He said, " "If I have spoken wrongly, bear witness to the wrong; but if I have spoken rightly, why do you strike me?"

    So let's imitate the Master.  Turn the other cheek, but do not be afraid to witness to the truth while doing so.

    PTR!

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    You're a better woman than I am. A quick way to invoke Our Lady: "Mother of Good Counsel, counsel and protect us."

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