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Reflections on Putting Noelle to Sleep

My moral repugnance toward euthanasia goes back a very long way. In 1967, at the young age of twelve, an insight hit me: "I don't think that people should put their dogs to sleep. If they think that's OK, some day they'll start doing that to people."

I've never forgotten that thought, and I've watched in horror as our society has gown more and more accepting of killing people who are perceived as burdensome. I've spent countless hours criticizing the euthanasia movement in both speech and print. I've resisted the temptation to allow euphemisms about euthanasia to enter my language. I've tried to convince relatives of the dangers lurking in their living wills. And the dogs in my life all died on their own, so I never had to violate my conscience on this subject.

Until the Saturday we celebrated the fifteenth birthday of my beloved golden retriever.

Noelle was riddled with cancer and arthritis. She'd outlived her veterinarian's prognosis by more than a year, and I was starting to call her my energizer bunny. But on Wednesday, she awoke with her hind legs completely paralyzed. I upped her medications, and they did nothing. For a couple of days, I hand fed and watered her, untangled her twisted legs, lifted her, cleaned her, and made her comfortable as best I could. She would look at me hopefully and cock her ears as if to say, "I'm in trouble, but I know you can fix it." I'd always been able to before.

 But this time I couldn't fix it. And so I had to face the difference between the purposeless suffering of an animal, and the inherent worth and dignity of every human person, no matter how ill.

Our Church, in her beautiful, God-given wisdom, tells us, "Animals are God's creatures. He surrounds them with His providential care. By their mere existence they bless Him and give Him glory. Thus men owe them kindness" (CCC 2416).

But our Church also cautions that our love and kindness must be balanced in a proper moral order. "It is contrary to human dignity to cause animals to suffer or die needlessly. It is likewise unworthy to spend money on them that should as a priority go to the relief of human misery. One can love animals; one should not direct to them the affection due only to persons" (CCC 2418).

Primarily, we are called by God to take care of the people in our lives. "Those whose lives are diminished or weakened deserve special respect. Sick or handicapped persons should be helped to lead lives as normal as possible" (CCC 2277). Toward those ends, we have wheelchairs, feeding tubes, respirators and diapers to help people when their bodies fail. These devices allow us to assist broken bodies and maintain the dignity of the human soul.

It is true that there are canine versions of these devices. But while the inherent worth of a human person makes such care ordinary, when it comes to a sick though beloved pet, these devices may be considered extraordinary treatment. The affection due to persons requires us to change their diapers; my dog was in agony just having water on her hind legs.

And so I wrapped Noelle in a comforter, and took her to the vet. I hated the platitudes they used: "This is the final act of love," and "Our dogs will be with us in heaven." I didn't want to fool myself. The truth was that I couldn't help Noelle anymore, no one could. Even to try would be taking resources away from the people in my life.

My daughter in Texas stressed that if Noelle had been in the wild, she would never have lived this long. My youngest, who runs a dog-care business, said that even the two now-deceased dogs she'd cared for never got this bad.

Yet, I hate that I had to do this. I don't know how long it will take me to get over it. But I've learned two important lessons from this heartbreak.

The first was that no matter how much you love an animal, sometimes you can't help it anymore. Death truly becomes the only solution. Jesus Christ gave human suffering redemptive value when He died on the Cross, but the suffering of an animal serves no purpose.

The second lesson was that I was right when I was twelve years old. Our society has lost its sense of the inherent sacredness of human life. To mask our pain at euthanizing beloved pets, we've allowed ourselves to think that euthanizing a person is an act of love.

We must fight this morphing of attitudes and collapse of meaning and recognize the proper moral order of creation. The sacredness of the human person requires our care, our compassion, our time and our resources. Of course, our Church draws the line at over-zealous, burdensome treatment. But we must not draw that line in the sand too early.

And we must protest the violations of this order within our society. We must protest the Dr. Kervorkians, the Michael Schiavos, and the physician who put a plastic bag over her autistic 3-year-old's head. We must insist that these are not acts of compassion; these are acts of murder.

We must re-establish within our society a sense of the sacredness of human life. Those of us still healthy must defend and care for the weak, ill, and aged. It is critical to the health of our society and, as we ourselves age and become infirm, to our very existence.

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    Well said! Humans and animals are different!

    Yet, I do think that we’ll have our beloved animals with us in heaven. Can it be that God would make something that was good that we wouldn’t be able to keep in heaven? Wouldn’t heaven be missing something if Noelle wasn’t there?

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    Toni,

    My experience and my feelings about putting animals to sleep have paralleled yours. My Siberian Husky, Frosty,whom we could never get completely housebrokwen, and was an outside dog with shelter and cover, lived fifteen years. In the end he could not walk or eat. Finally, I dug hias grave in the backyard, wrapped him in a sheet, carried him to the vet, held him as he was put to sleep, carried him home and buried him. It was a very difficult decision. But I never lost sight of the fact that he was an animal, not a human being.

    Steve

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    I got the same insight about animal suffering not being redemptive last fall when my beloved basenji, my only companion got a pancreatic tumor and one night she just started to scream with pain. All of a sudden I knew her pain was not redemptive and there was no purpose for it so I was able to take her to the vet and have her put to sleep.

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    Toni,

    I was horriifed by your description of Noelle's last days. My wife and I have owned beloved pets and contribute to our local Humane Society, but we would never consent to heroic treatment or pointless prolongation of life for a suffering animal. It's hard to have them put down, but even harder to watch them suffer unnecessarily. It's not a matter of conscience to avoid euthanizing sick animals, but only bad judgment and misplaced sentimentality. Domesticated animals are helpless without us and depend on us for responsible care and protection from unnecessary suffering.

    Pavel

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    What a great story! Tonireally drives home the difference between animal and human suffering. Both are horrible, but they are very different. I don’t think I agree that animal euthanasia has led to human euthanasia. What has led to human euthanasia is a secular Darwinian worldview that sees humans as nothing more than animals. But as a twelve-year-old insight that’s pretty good! I hope my children grow up with the same sensitivity about life.

    “We are made for you, oh God, to live forever in your love and our hearts will not rest until they rest in You.” St Augustine

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    Dear Toni,

    My husband and I finally had to euthanize our 16-year-old male Lab/Chow this past All Saints’ Day, so I very much sympathize with your recent loss. Bosco (named for St. John) had been particularly strongly bonded to me. Soon after his death, however, something interesting began to happen: I continued to sense his presence with me for weeks afterward, sometimes even in places where he would not normally have been with me. Once, I even actually AUDIBLY heard Bosco’s familiar settling-down sigh behind me, in his usual place, as I sat on our living room sofa.

    My husband said that these events were just the result of my grief tricking my senses, and a few other people I mentioned these moments to said something like, “Well, maybe Bosco’s just saying good-bye.” You know, I now suspect that he did NOT say good-bye, and that he–and thus, all our other now-deceased pets–is still with his family, but we just can’t see him, anymore. Perhaps, as our grief processes progress, we simply, mercifully, lose our sensitivity to their presences, as I have since done myself, but our pets still remain, forever bonded to their beloved people.

    As I have done at the deaths of all my other pets, I have again examined Church teaching on the subject of the “Lesser Brethren,” and have not found any definitive doctrine indicating that animals just drop out of existence forever once they die. Yes, humans have immortal souls and animals only mortal ones, but how can WE possibly know the spiritual extent of THEIR mortality, this side of heaven? I don’t recall Jesus’s ever addressing that subject in the Gospels. Rather, He was concerned with teaching us OUR place in God’s plan.

    Two weeks following Bosco’s death, I could no longer endure not having a dog’s PHYSICAL presence in the house. So, my husband and I visited the local animal shelter, and rescued Katie, another Labrador-mix, from certain, unbeloved death. And thus, we begin again….

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    Toni, You are 100% right about all of this. My beloved mother died of Parkinson’s disease. I asked her if embryo stem cells would cure her would she want it and she said, “No, never!”. She didn’t even think about it. The question of euthansia for terminal people is equally horrible. The people who promote it are people who don’t have a clue what love is. Period. Our family felt it was a great honor to care for our mother even though it was extremely hard. If we have to do it again we will. Euthansia also robs the victim of his or her opportunity of redemptive suffering and to offer their suffering as reparation for sin and faults. Such victime don’t die on their own but become victims of legalized murder. For sure, God will not wink at that. Our nation is on the path to hell. If we allow this horror, America as we know it is doomed.

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    This article reminds me how ironic it is that people are eager to treat animals as if they were humans, and yet are just as eager to treat humans as if they were not animals, but mere things. This author’s insights are spot on. Hopefully, more and more of us will come closer to God to receive His wisdom and shift our priorities according to His will.

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    To follow jgcase’s and Toni’s thoughts, I want to tell about MY experience. I’ve had pets all my life and most of them have been euthanized at the end. Unlike Toni, I looked at people and wondered why we didn’t care as much about them as we did about our pets and put people out of their misery. My journey into the Church answered that questions.
    Then, I had a dog who was not quite what I’d hoped for. She lived a good life for 15 years, and had to be euthanized due to cancer. (To answer Toni’s question, you never “get over” it:like losing any close relationship, you have a “hole” where that personality should be for the rest of your life.) After the dog was gone, I got to thinking about her. In spite of our differences, she loved me. If God is Love–and we believe He is–then the dog fulfilled His Will and purpose in creating her. So, the question becomes, “Is it possible for God to ‘destroy’ His own essence?” I think not, but I could be wrong.

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    Animals do not have rational souls so that do not have free will.
    They do the things they do because of what they are not because of reason.

    Because of this animals are not capable of love or suffering in anything resembling the human senses of the words.

    They are capable of loyalty and companionship even in some sense comradeship, but not love.

    Love in it’s true sense requires the a rational choice an act of the free will. I choose to desire the good for another weather or not they deserve it, weather or not I feel like it.

    Hopefully the emotion accompanies the choice , but that is not always the case.
    Animals might have something resembling the same emotions but what they have is not love.

    Likewise animals do not suffer. They hurt. Suffering implies a awareness of you situation. Either a recognition that your pain is of value ( redemptive suffering) or a deep despair for the good lost to you , which requires the human ability to cognisize the fact that there is a unique YOU and to recognize the pain , loss of good , and possible death of the being known to yourself as YOU.

    Animals do not do either of these things.

    This article was about keep a clear understanding of the difference between animals and human beings.

    If animals have free will then they have immortal souls if they have immortal souls then eating them is murder, so there is no difference between euthanizing an animal and a person.

    If they do not have free will then they do not love in the sense that a human being loves. What they do is something removed by a differences of type.

    Although they may feel it even more intensely then we do when their brains bond in loyalty to their pack.

    There is nothing destoyed when an animal dies. only dissabated.

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    You know, I have this idea that pet animals can only make it to heaven as we make it to heaven. In our resurrection, they were so part of our earthly beyond-the-natural joy. I dare not call it supernatural – the Spirit reads everything I type. Yet as God might handle our pets in saving us and giving us all joy with Him, I don’t concern myself – He can do anything He sees fit to and from His love.

    Hence, having put to rest four pets of our family, and two others of my extended family, I tell them all – for, even the Spirit knows whereof I speak – to ‘run to Sharon, now!’ – to my late wife, Sharon, who will love them in heaven’s gardens as she did here.

    It may be but taking my own comfort, but a loved pet is part of a loved life. It is an innocent of the household and family. Maybe, Christ makes a point of visiting His beloved with heavenly pets – maybe, He never had a pet of His own.

    If you want your pets in heaven, submit to God’s salvific graces and get there yourself – and, there, there, maybe, they just will be waiting for you, along with everyone else in your cheering section.

    Through Christ, with Christ, in Christ,

    Pristinus Sapienter

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    Toni,
    I have so much to say–in my head–but I’m finding it hard to put into words on a page.

    First off, my deepest condolences on the loss of Noelle. I can only imagine how distraught you’ve been.I have come into dog ownership late in life, and after 3 years, I can’t remember how my life was before my beloved beagle, Giovanni, became part of it, and I don’t want to think about my life after him. Before G, I never quite got people’s special relationship with dogs, and how it differed from their relationship with cats.I have had cats most of my adult life, and I also love them, especially my first cat, Pinky, who died at the age of 17. But it’s just a different relationship between human and dog and human and cat, not more and not less.

    I don’t know, as most people don’t, whether we will be reunited with our beloved pets on the other side, I can only hope that we will be because if that is not the case, then to me our whole relationship on this side really makes no sense. But then again, I am looking at this with an earthly perspective, and not a heavenly one. Maybe their sole purpose is to make us happy on this side, and our happiness in heaven will be so complete we won’t need them. I’m rambling… I don’t know, but I sure hope I will see my beloved Pinky again. I still miss her so much after 14 years.I know this sounds strange, but to me sometimes the deaths of animals is harder to endure than the deaths of people, because I KNOW I will see my beloved people again, so they are not really “gone,” but the animals I am not sure about, and I wonder if that relationship is severed forever. As I said, I can only hope.

    I know God is in charge and He does what’s best, I don’t want to second-guess, indeed, I couldn’t. You see, I have suffered the greatest loss any human can suffer. I lost my 4-year-old son, John, to cancer 25 years ago. I couldn’t understand then, and can’t now, why this had to happen. I never thought I would live through it, but I did, and I live with the daily hope that we will be reunited again. You never “get over” such hurts, you just learn to live with them. It’s not on the SURFACE, if it were, you wouldn’t be able to function, but it’s always there. God knew better than I did, I accepted it, and got on with my life.

    I said I was finding it hard to put my words down on the page, and reading it over, I see what a bad job I’ve done of it, so I’ll just end by saying that I DO believe that our pets will somehow be reunited with us, we have given them, and they us, so much love and for that to be ended just doesn’t sound like what God would have in mind for us.

    God bless you and your new pooch, and I hope you have a long, healthy, and happy life together!

    Toni

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    Thank you, eveyone, for your kind and supportive words. I normally can take criticism about what I write, but this time it would have been very hard. Everyone who submitted comments has been wonderfully uplifting for me.

    Pets are an amazing part of our lives. We must thank God for giving us such companions here on earth.

    May our Lord in Heaven richly bless you all,
    Toni Collins

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    The article is interesting and the comments too, and I did not give it much thought until I had a discussion with a friend who is going to face this situation probably in the near future. She was unable to forward her comments to the article, so I do so for her and they are below:

    “I have always been an animal lover, have owned dogs all my life, have euthanized several, and am the current owner of a 12 year old (failing) lovely black lab named Lucy. The views I will share I have come to within the past year.

    “I echo the sentiments of your youth. Here is the potential argument. If euthanizing weak, helpless, or otherwise burdensome animals is “humane”, then how can we be any less “humane” to our fellow humans who fall into the same category. While I embrace the Catechism’s caracterization of the role of animals in God’s creation, one does note the absence of a firm statement with regard to the morality of euthanizing animals.

    The Church, under the guidance of the Holy Spirit has been quite firm regarding the issues surrounding life. To that end, God is the author of life. We are taught that only He has the perview to say when it will begin or end. If we take that premise and apply it to all life (since there is no stipulation applying this principle only to human life), then one could argue that it applies to animal life as well.

    We have been given dominion over the animals and therefore are able to dispose of them for our own sustinance. Even Jesust used fish to feed the 5,000 and never made any vegitarian claims. Euthanizing a sick or dieing animal does not fall into this category.

    Animals do not have free wills. They obey the laws of nature. Nature obeys the will of God. Animals are within the will of God, are incapable of sin and do not ask “why me”. they accept the will of God without resistance. It is we who are capable of resisting the will of God.

    There were several mentions in the article of the suffering of animals being pointless, nonredemptive ect… While it is true that the animals suffering is nonredemptive, it is conversely true that the loving owner’s suffering at watching a beloved family pet suffer and die is quite redemptive. Having watched my own mother slowly die over the course of three years brought home to me quite clearly the razor sharp edged suffering that takes place in watching a loved one suffer. The animals suffering is non-redemptive. The loving owner’s suffering while watching the beloved animal suffer is! Any animal lover who has watched their animal suffer at the end of their lives can attest to the profound quality that suffering has. If God wanted to end that suffering, He would take the animal. When we think we have had enough of watching the suffering, We say, “Enough!” and end it (artificially) and arguably outside of God’s perfect will.

    This is not to say that one should utilize extensive costly medical treatment for animals (not while there are starving children in the world). But rather, simply, to let nature (aka the will of God) take its course. When the animal becomes too difficult to care for….continue to persevere ….and pray that God will take the animal soon and end our own keen acute and relentless suffering. But that His will, not ours be done. And as Sister Irene Mary often told my second grade class….dont’t forget to offer it up.” Megan H.

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    A lot of stretch in there –

    – such as, how do we justify the thousands of head of livestock (a lot of it chickens) killed daily to feed meat protein to ourselves?

    And, oh dear, what about cutting wheat to death, just as it has carried its young to very near birth and re-planting the soil nearby, so we can have bread flour?
    What of all those barley babies and bean babies in my soup?
    How dare we pick seed-(‘infant’)-bearing apples, pears, etc., and pit-(‘infant’)-bearing plums, peaches, etc., just so we can get our daily fruit!

    Dogs (and cats, etc.) are simply livestock acceptably domesticated to living among us. I believe that it is possible that in our love for pets they gain an eternal life that is meant more for OUR joy than theirs.

    But, I could no more equate all the pets in the world to just one human than I could decide some humans could be meat-providing livestock themselves.

    Through Christ, with Christ, in Christ,

    Pristinus Sapienter

    (wljewell @catholicexchange.com or … yahoo.com)

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